Resolved deadlock by passing target entry to be_group and using
this if dn same as bdn.  It might actually be safer to check
entry ids instead of dns.
Resolved bogus add to cache after failed acl check by deferring
cache add until after parent/acl checks have successful been
completed.
Eliminated race condition caused by concurrent adds
of same dn by adding 'li_add_mutex' around the critical section
of code (most of ldbm_back_add).
This code is preliminary and still needs significant testing.